Rebound Relationships – How To Get Your Partner To Talk

There seems to be a stigma in society around rebound relationships. There’s nothing wrong with them. Why are they looked down upon? As long as you’re happy, that’s all that matters, right?

How would you define a rebound relationship? Most people see it as seeing or dating someone new right after their current relationship is over. Of course, this wouldn’t happen if the person who was right for you appreciated you in the first place.   You never know with love. The person who takes you back and dumps you again could be the person who you end up with for the rest of your life. It could be someone else. Keeping an open mind with rebounds and with exes is the key staying resilient in such a turbulent emotional climate.

There are heaps of reasons that relationships break apart. Affairs and what not are the end result of many years of degradation, whereas it’s more common for two people to drift apart and become strangers over time. Safe to say that when the split happens, it’s not for no reason. Couples who have been in the game for years face the boredom predicament. The initial excitement of dating someone new has long fizzled out. Their compatibility wasn’t very high and in the end, to them it might have been like trying to fit a triangular peg through a square hole.

If you are in a relationship with someone who has just been newly single, don’t pressure them into talking if they don’t want to. Of course you’re going to be curious as to what happened with their previous partner, but if you start shining an interrogation lamp over them, they are as good as gone. Us guys can tend to be a bit tight-lipped when it comes to speaking up about our past, and for good reason. To reflect and feel emotion in general is generally frowned upon amongst us; can you blame us for sacrificing sensitivity for masculinity. Safe to say, we are with you in the first place because we’re into you. If we didn’t like you, you would know one way or another.  

I would also advise against asking to see a picture of the former partner. You do not want to start comparing yourself to them and it is difficult not to do this when you know what they look like. If you are part of the same social circle, it could be even harder not to draw comparisons. You are going to have friends who are really nosy and will want to know more about your new partner. If you want to keep your new mysterious partner out of prying eyes for a while, just keep your relationship under the radar until you feel that you know more about him or her so that you know what you can and can’t tell about them.    

If you are the one on the rebound you need to be sure of your motivation for getting involved. Are you looking for a short fling or a long term love affair?  Whatever you do, don’t get involved with another man to make your ex jealous or for revenge. It rarely works and it isn’t fair to play with the new persons emotions.

You may find, just like I did, that your rebound relationship never ends and in fact turns into the love affair of the century. We all need some more fun in our life so try to enjoy yourself with your new partner and see where it leads.  Whoever says you should avoid rebound relationships is missing out on a whole lot of fun.

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