Keeping Your Guy Interested

Is keeping a man interested something I can engineer?   This is an age-old question that is getting a lot of attention these days.  With a combined effect of modern stress and the effects of a troubled economy it is clearly understandable why this question seems to be getting asked more and more frequently.   Well, are there things that you can do to rekindle his interest?  There are, but the challenge really lies in the direction of doing what it takes so you keep his interest without having to rekindle anything.   That means keeping him happy, intrigued, well fed and gasping for breath at bedtime.

This can be viewed as important for men to do also, but it is critical for women.   Men make the decision to get involved in a relationship based on a simple formula.  This is often puzzling to some women because women do this in a totally different way.   A man relies on his internal Love Equation.  Men get involved with a woman when the cost – freedom – is greatly counterbalanced by the reward – one woman.   This is not a calculation that women make.  Not only do men make this determination – albeit – psycho-emotionally – but they are under constant demands by instinct to do a recalculation if things in the relationship change.  So it is up to the woman involved to prevent this recalculation from even surfacing.   What do you do?

First of all let us be clear on what it is that you cannot do.  This includes any frontal attack – like whining about getting more attention.   While those always sound good in the Cosmo articles they almost always result in skid marks in your driveway.

In summary this strategy basically means spending more time with your man.   While not announcing or explaining why, make sure that you have a meal together at least several times a week.  Having more dates cannot help but rekindle the original attraction that brought the two of you together in the first place.

Always make sure that you over-prepare for these increased and heightened outings and try and look smashing.  Try a new perfume or new dress and use any compliment for another kiss.   Do not make him wait for you when he arrives to pick you up.

Be romantic!  This is often overlooked by couples who have reached a certain plateau in their relationship.  However, in this regard it is always in your favor to hold his hand, put your arm around him and encourage him to do the same.  Feed him like your mother suggested – favorite meal or cookies.   Finally, satisfy his sexual appetites.  Need we say more here?  A final question:  If you had done everything in this article do you really think you would need to be rekindling anything?

If you are really trying to get ex back from a breakup where these things did not happen, or if you are planning to win your ex back, a thorough understanding of these constant reminders will help to get ex back.